The Two Home Crew
It was the end of second grade. I remember being in my bed. I was almost asleep but was still kind of awake. Then I remember my dad coming in and saying: “Hey, sweetie, mom and I have to talk with you about something. Come downstairs with me.”
I went downstairs, sat on the couch between my mom and dad. Then one of them then said something like “our family format will be changing.” I remember being upset and saying to them that I would not get off the couch until they changed their minds.
I hoped it was all a dream. I was afraid to ask because I didn’t want to find out that it wasn’t a dream. I eventually went to bed and pinched myself a lot. I even pinched my feet because I just wanted to wake up.
Then my mom crawled into bed with me and told me it would all be ok. That we are going to have a great life and that nothing could change the fact that she and my dad both loved me and my brother very, very much.
The next year, I was in the 3rd grade. We got this new counselor and she noticed that a few other kids were going through family transitions. So she put together a group for me and my friends. We brainstormed ideas for what to call the group. Then someone said: “hey, does everyone live in two houses?” Some people said they live in two apartments or one house and one apartment. We decided to call ourselves “The Two Home Crew.”
We met at the end of the day every Wednesday. I hated it when I missed a session. We read books, like Little Rabbit Gets a Divorce. We talked about how to deal with moving between two homes. We listened to each other. We helped each other.
The biggest thing I learned is that my parents splitting up was not my fault.
Our family feels normal to me now. We still have a great life. And I know my parents love my brother and me very, very much.
8 Comments
FRANKIE Bowie
This is awesome. Lola you are an amazing beautiful and intelligent girl.
Debbie
You are a brave, wise, resilient girl. It will be ok, you will weather this storm. Thanks for sharing. Hang tough!
Carol Tademy
Lola, you expressed your thoughts and feelings so very well. Reading your post was like I could see and feel your emotions as you were sitting on the couch with your mom and dad. It’s a joy seeing you grow. You remind me so much of your beautiful mother. I look forward to reading your next post. #44thficks #thetwohomecrew 💕💕💕
Pakou Hang
Lola— thank you for beautifully sharing what happened to you. I know that someone will read it and better understand what is happening in their own life because of what you wrote. You are magic.
Theresa johnson
Amazing, Lola
Mary Cornish
Amazing reflection of a young person experiencing a difficult time. You have grown into a wonderful, insightful person. I wish you the best.
Marquitta blair
Wow. Great lola!! You are beyond your years
Cindy C Fontenot
Lola, I am grateful that you shared your story. Hearing your story might help another child who is going through a family transition. You are a gift to the world.